per the last link in the relevant posts.
run mod_wsgi-express module-config
replace what i had in my httpd.conf to load with the output:
LoadFile "C:/Users/{me}/AppData/Local/Programs/Python/Python313/python313.dll"
LoadModule wsgi_module "C:/Users/{me}/AppData/Local/Programs/Python/Python313/Lib/site-packages/mod_wsgi/server/mod_wsgi.cp313-win_amd64.pyd"
WSGIPythonHome "C:/Users/{me}/AppData/Local/Programs/Python/Python313"