The non elegant solution to this problem is just to copy the netlink into the right directory:
sudo mkdir /usr/include/netlink/
sudo cp -r /usr/include/libnl3/netlink/ /usr/include/netlink/
run again the
./configure
then run
make
Then it builds...
Make sure that packets are installed:
sudo apt-get install libnl-3-dev
sudo apt-get install libnl-route-3-dev