after a lot of research I finally solved the problem.

my project setup is django for the backend and react for the frontend

in the frontend where you import axios for my case in the authslice.js include the line just before the rest of your axios

axios.defaults.withCredentials = true;

then in your settings.py include the following settings

CORS_ALLOWED_ORIGINS = [
    REACT_APP_URL,  
]

CORS_ALLOW_CREDENTIALS = True

SESSION_COOKIE_SECURE = True   # True is essential for same-site none to work
SESSION_COOKIE_SAMESITE = 'None' 

thanks! I hope you solve your issue