I would like to share what I do, because I suffer with pusblishing to iOS too.

First I test everything on Simulator or my local iPhone device.

At Visual Studio 2022:

• I swith the project to Release and chose "iOS Remote Devices \ Remote Device";

• Pair with my Mac (in my case it's a virtual machine);

• On Project properties, I switch Project Signing to:

  • Scheme: Manual Provisioning;

  • Signing Identity: I chose my "iPhone Distribuition xxxx" profile;

  • Provisioning Profile: I chose "iOS Distribuition xxxx" profile;

• Confirm I successfully Build / Rebuild the project without errors;

• Chose Publish on my project;

• While publishing, I go to my Mac and open XCode and open menu "Window \ Organizer" and wait for my project appear on Archives tab;

• After see the project on Archivies I can "Distribuite App" to Apple;

• Abort any Publish task still pending in Visual Studio;