The Correct Identity AddOn for Thunderbird could solve this:

https://addons.thunderbird.net/de/thunderbird/addon/correct-identity/?src=search

I did not test it yet. Taken from the description:

Correct Identity helps you to use the right identity when sending messages by:

• letting you better configure default identities to be used when composing new messages from scratch.

• detecting and using the identity for which you received the message you're replying.

• you can improve this detection by specifying aliases (alternate addresses, sender names, domains, etc., regular expressions supported), or instead opt-out identities for detection.

• changing identities on the fly when typing recipients that match aliases.

• warn you before sending a message from an identity if its recipients match one or more search terms you configured for the identity (regular expressions supported).